Thomas: Woman Understander?

     Thomas describes as Kushemski, the way to love and ultimately worship a woman: "..to be your property and vanish in your sublime essence. To dress and undress you, to hand you your stockings and put the shoes on your feet. (pg. 32)" This definition amazes me, because taken out of context the two statements can present two very different images. The first, sounds like a slave or worshiper that is fulfilled in his (or her) dedication and submission. While not necessarily a sexiest role, from societal definitions, this links perhaps links more strongly with a woman. Women are more often treated as objects that can be obtained, owned, and even bought for a significant amount of time. Not to say this doesn't happen with a man, as it does, but normally this is not what we see as much. The second sentence boggles me slightly as it very much reminds me of a parent-child relationship. As a young infant, primarily dependent upon our parents, we require much attention, even for basic things, such as getting dressed. The second statement could be taken as very normal and routine, with little emotion attached to it, but from the context, it obviously means more, Kushemski is subjecting his manhood to a new level. Wishing to be submissive and almost parental, his version of affection may vary strongly from the modeled form.
   As we continue reading, we see Vanda complimenting Thomas, saying, "...God the insight. Especially about women. Thomas, you really understand women. (32)" This is said after Thomas (as Kushemski) has describes that "I willing accept being the anvil" to the "In love as in politics, one partner must rule." Vanda's compliment reminds me of Song, in "M. Butterfly" who also professes he knows men better than women because he is a man acting as a woman. (And has learned from his prostitute mother.) The difference is this compliment is not self-given, and we are talking about factually heterosexual attraction, yet there seems to be an air of non-hetero attractive in this whole discussion of worship masochistic love. I'm surprised that Vanda agree's that a  woman would enjoy to be worshiped to the point of a goddess. While most woman most likely enjoy being called and treated as a "princess", we rarely see the next step in being worship like a greek entity that can't be interacted with like a human being. This is an interesting thought that I wish to discuss more, as I wonder where the drive to not have more equal relationship ends, and an anvil-hammer relationship begins, and what is in between?