Director/Actor

In the reading for today, I would be lying if I said I wasn't a little bit confused about never being truly ourselves. It has been an underlying...yet sometimes explicit...theme in class, but it's driving me slowly insane. I suppose I knew that we were always performing. There are constantly things that I want to do (like go back to sleep) that I can't because I am doing homework. Just then, I typed "that I forgot to do" and then deleted it. So the proof is right there; even behind closed doors, we are still performing.
I can see the performance of the athletes who live on my floor. They all try and act the same and be so 'cool' until I can talk to one of them without other athletes around - then they are incredibly nice. 
Then there was this quote: "Everyone masters to some degree or another the social codes of daily life. Rebels intentionally break the rules; revolutionaries want to change them permanently" - so now, not only have we been performing, we've been trying to direct other performances.
This leads me to believe that the interactions in Venus in Furs are not at all unusual. They may be more overstated, but they are simply pointing out how mostly everyone 'acts.' We have the man who is explicitly stated as the director, and the woman who is 'acting' and being directed. He is directing her throughout the play to change the way that she directs him - until she eventually becomes the director. Through this, the cycle may continue.
So those revolutionaries, who want to change the thoughts of others, are just like Thomas. They , myself occasionally being one of these people, are knowingly or unknowingly, working to change the performance of others through changing social norms.